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What are your flaws..

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I forgot to list my 2 worst character flaws that hurt others somehow and/or keep them from becoming intimate with me.
#1-I will take the side opposed to what I actually support just to argue. I love debating and questioning, especially when someone is extreamist or stubborn. Some call this being the "Devil's Advocate".
#2-I enjoy shocking others and being in your face. Examples of this in other personalities: Alice Cooper (Vincent Damon Furnier), Janeane Garofalo, Marilyn Manson (Brian Hugh Warner), and Alan Shore (played by James Spader) and Denny Crane (played by Bill Shatner) on "Boston Legal".
These are both attempts to "wake up the dead". It is also based on my desire, like everyone else's, to be loved and accepted, but gets in the way of intimacy too. It is also because I am impatient (even though my friends somehow think me patient). Since I fear people really won't love and accept me in the long run anyway, (I never could fit in with what was considered normal), I lay it all on the line and am up front immediately. This is to avoid wasting time developing a relationship that is based on lies (fake). This comes through in my fashion as well. I always have been ridiculed one day and copied the next, so I know most people to be fickle, weak and fake. I like strong people, like me. Therefore, I appreciate, admire and respect most all of youz guyz, even though it might not be obvious considering my commentaries. Oh, and if sex were free, dang right baby! (Self control keeps me clean but also keeps me yearning, aw shucks!)
I have a great power of becoming the leader in a group, which is o.k. as long as I don't lead the cows off a cliff because they don't follow the rules (that is the #3 biggie that I don't fully trust myself with.)
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I am well acquainted with psychological theory and have a few theories of my own. I think there are some missing links that you may want to consider. Man's drive to f**k is not an instinctual drive to reproduce. Think about it seriously and logically and the proof will steer you in another direction. Then actually quiet your own brain for a moment and let yourself actually feel the drive that you have when you get horney. I won't reveal my personal ideas here at present, but rather invite you to look within and be honest with yourself instead of following another mindless (cow/sheep following again) acceptance of another's theory ("religion"). OH, and another weird fault I have is I love my girlfriends enough to really want to be able to share my man with them if they are in "need". (Like Little Big Man's wife was willing to share him with her sisters, and actually "made" him do it.) But I won't make them, it's just that people think this is weird and bad, and you can't do it anyway because people can fall "in love" when they have sex, and this confuses people. Also, being able to "pick up" on attraction is not a 6th sense, it's olfactory.
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I am well acquainted with psychological theory and have a few theories of my own. I think there are some missing links that you may want to consider. Man's drive to f**k is not an instinctual drive to reproduce. Think about it seriously and logically and the proof will steer you in another direction. Then actually quiet your own brain for a moment and let yourself actually feel the drive that you have when you get horney. I won't reveal my personal ideas here at present, but rather invite you to look within and be honest with yourself instead of following another mindless (cow/sheep following again) acceptance of another's theory ("religion"). OH, and another weird fault I have is I love my girlfriends enough to really want to be able to share my man with them if they are in "need". (Like Little Big Man's wife was willing to share him with her sisters, and actually "made" him do it.) But I won't make them, it's just that people think this is weird and bad, and you can't do it anyway because people can fall "in love" when they have sex, and this confuses people.
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.... I now have a plan for that but it could have happened sooner if I didn't...
3) have problems talking about myself. I hate it. A typical male trait is to go on and on about themselves. I can't seem to do this which means I allow others to perceive me by their observations.
4) I can't talk to people that I don;t know. It's a phobia or something, I don;t know. I often find excuses to not have to. Like now, I should be calling people that I don;t know about apartments. I don;t want to.
5) I'm very picky when it comes to women. I'd say I meet less than 2 women per year that I actually find both mentally and physically attractive. Typically I can watch a woman I find attractive for a few minutes and determine that I can't stand her personality. If I was more tolerant perhaps I might have more dates. Physically, I can't stand hair, moles, birthmarks though I don;t mind freckles. I saw the hottest girl in the gym yesterday and when she was close by - arm hair. Thin but very dark. It grossed me out. I am too picky when it comes to women.
6) I can do calculus but I can't understand compound interest. Money is a mystery to me. I don't much care for the stuff and I do make enough to get by but I do wish I could handle my finances a little better
I'm sure I have more and I'm sorry that I took up two whole boxes to write that all out. Even more sorry to the poor fukkers that read it all
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This may seem tangential, but I promise to come full circle and get on topic.
I believe that Prowler has a degree in psychology. It doesn't take intelligence to get through university, it takes drive. He seems to have that. I've met enough people that are dumb as nails that have degrees to be sure of it. And the way he describes the ID is correct and correlates with the descriptions others have put up.
However, being controlled byu the ID is not a good thing. It's already been established that babies are controlled by the ID as the other brain funtions have not developed yet.
Prowler,
By claiming to be controlled by your ID, you've basically told me that you have the mentality of a two year old. Congratulations. I giggle when you talk about your superior physique because when I look at your picture all I see is a skinny little twirp. You're not overly tall either. I think you need your mouth to make up for that and probably succeed at times to sway the weak minded into thinking you're a big deal.
That you can find women to have sex with doesn't suprise me. I find the general population to be fairly stupid and easily swayed. I'm fairly confident in my assessment that the women you're sleeping with are women that I wouldn't go near, probably because I couldn't stand talking to them. That said, I'm sure you;re quite happy in your life and I no one can take that away from you.
Flaws to me are nothing but perception as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I see as a flaw in Prowler he sees as an asset. Therefore, my flaws can only be the things about me that I don;t like as opposed to the things that other people find wrong in me.
They are as follows:
1) I procrastinate. For example, I'm supposed to be looking for an apartment right now
2) I can;t seem to lose the fat in my midsection. It's basically in my lower stomache, sides, inner thighs and ass. I got frustrated going to the gym because I'd do my workout and my thighs would get bigger.....
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Prowler...the operative word might not have been your name.
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Some flaws of mine:

I seem to have developed a tendency to take long sabbaticals from life. This doesn't actually bother me, but it bothers those I know - I need to look into it;

I am voraciously interested in almost all areas of information. Again, this is not a problem to me, but the flaw comes in my assuming others are equally interested, often to the point of pedantry;

Plus the usual - low self-esteem, egotism, arrogance, addictive/obsessive nature, clinical depression (combined with mercurial traits which may indicate an underlying bi-polar personality), a bit narcissistic/maybe just selfish - frankly, I've had enough of psychology/psychiatry for the time being, so I don't really fancy finding out what the latest pseudo-medical diagnosis/terminology for what our society is pleased to label "my problem" is, especially since I'm finally coming round to _really_ accepting that, since I genuinely don't like much of what people are or do, it _is_ actually perfectly fine for me to go about things differently.

Freud: anyone who has read him and even a smattering of modern theory regarding human motivation, thought and action can hardly fail to realise that his work is so coloured by phalocentric, ruling-class prejudice as to be almost useless, unless one's field of study is in fact "the effect of phalocentric, ruling-class prejudice". We can salute the first person who realised that it was worth understanding the physics involved when shifting a large heavy object from 1 place to another (woohoo for the pioneer), however, when we ourselves wish to do something similar, we do not reach for our log-rollers, but modern engineering.
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Thanks guys...this is great
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To Kojak!

If youd took the time to read my previous post, you see I explained the ID perfectly! How the ID develops is not that intresting its how it drives you in day to day adult life.
The ID is driven forward by Instinctual drives you muppet. Biology and hormones drive the instinctual drives which cause conflicts.

Example, a guy goes to a bar. Hes drunk. All guys know how alcohol affects one biochemistry and hormones and we all know that alcohol tends to bring out the ID in people.

Guy goes a bar and gets the chance to take a women home to have sex. His ID, his strong desire for sex and release of sperm based on the male innate drive and the hormone testesterone wants him to go and sleep with this women.

The superego the safety voice based on morals and good sense and the persons beliefs and values may say, hang on here. If I sleep with this women I may get her pregnant. I dont want that. Also if this womens willing put it out so easy for me, how many other guys she put it out for?

So what we get is a conflict, between the drives pushed forward by biology and the ones safety voice. The ego in the end the deciding force decides.

In the end what will the guy do?

In this situation most guys will be driven forth by the ID!

The same way in which Kojak was driven by the ID, when he jumped in DoomGoths thread with feeble attempts to attack me. He was driven by fear of a superior alpha male moving in on his life stock. And he should be, not that it would be hard for a guy like me to take away his chances of pussy!

Back on topic, Another one of my flaws his im very aggressive. In many respects im also controlled by the ID. My overwelming desire to dominate and destroy often brings out the beast in me.

"Instinctual behaviour in the given situation, leaves us with no call for rationalization. Every man as what it takes to be a cannibal. Never underestimate the human animal."

- Biohazard, Human Animal
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Ok. Here's what I picked up on this chain other than the actual topic itself.

Prowler, I have another flaw to reveal. Others have it too, as clearly demonstrated on this blog. This is a flaw that I work daily for years to overcome. Actually been pretty good at it for some time. The flaw is reactive thinking.

Your claim of a Masters degree, although it may fly on a niche sub-culture dating and friendship site, is dubious at best. Everything you have stated so far can be googled by my 11 year old kid. But my 11 year old can spell. This would put him ahead of you in line when it came time to deliver your thesis. Now with that said, who do you think would end up with the degree? Here's something else that would put him ahead in the game of day to day relationships with everyday common people. He's not an uber-opinionated, overinflated ego driven by impulses to control and obtain attention and what seems to be a profound lack of self confidence.

You're more like my brother. He still lives with Dad at the age of 35, job hopping because his mouth overloads his ass and completely incapable of achieving a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, lest she has deeply rooted self-esteem issues. All that and delusional too, could in no way be completely honest with himself.

You are compensating for something. It's anyone's guess what that is. I don't really care to speculate. But there's another one of my faults coming out.

So yeah, I'm right there with Reliquary. Completely. I just figured to give you the opportunity to reverse your course, thinking that you may be a well educated individual. Maybe, but not bloody likely. I told you others would volunteer if you wouldn't. Thanks for that.
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Prowler90 write:

all that worthless junk


sorry to derail again Hardtopickname, but I am compulsively driven to confront stupidity. Please forgive me.

Prowler ... lol ... masters in psychology ... yet you can't even get the basic principle of Freud's theory of the ID right? Let alone construct a proper sentence? You, sir ... are an idiot. A fake. A self diluted little man with some serious self esteem issues.

Let me give you a hint ... if you're going to make some shit up to try and impress people .. research it first. If you're going to vociferate some "superior intelligence" at least be able to lend some allusion of belief to your rants.

Here's a quick lesson for ... Freud's theory of the ID is one of five parts to his overall theory of personality. We are born with ID, it is what allows us get our basic needs met. When a baby wants food, is in pain, needs changed, etc .. the ID speaks up. The ID is the first stage of personality. Within 3 years, the Ego develops and by the end of the phallic stage of development, the Superego emerges.

Of course, your having a Masters in psychology and all that, I don't have to point out the obvious fallacy in your reasoning, do I? I think it's pretty clear where you messed up. Perhaps you would like to amend your initial hypothesis? I mean, c'mon man .. this is psychology 101. It's not rocket science.

*queue incoming barrage of barely legible insults and/or latent homophobic aggression*


Again, my apologies, Hardtopickname.
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1.) Insecurity
2.)easily jealous
3.) thinking negative
5.)Don't trust other females especially around someone I'm seeing
6.) I do have trust issues, alot of people stabbed me in the back, makes it hard to trust anyone anymore.
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To Saffer!

Plenty of modern psychologists foolishly dismiss Freuds work. But any body with any true understanding of human psychology knows that his work in the area of psychoanalysis his the definitive.

Also you managed to utterly misrepresent the ID. What you think partly drives the ID ? Hormones and biological drives. The ID and biology to an extent are mutally exculsive. The dark impulsives you speak of come from a desire to forfill the ID. Males have an innate drive to want to reproduce, a drive that his pushed forward by the hormone testesterone. This is what causes subconscious conflicts between the ID and the safety voice the Superego.

If your gonna Debate me on Freudian theory, have the good decency to actually understand the dam theory in the first.. Many such as yourself and many Psychologists utterly misrepresent Freuds work.


Though I have qualifications in the area of psychology and a natural innate talent for reading people. Its not where my true talents are.

Back on topic!

Im very, very stubburn.
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Aw...you funny things.

Prowler...you just seemed so bored with your popcorn and such; awaiting responses; thought I would give you one that you certainly wouldn't expect.

Have noticed the dynamics though, and not necessarily in this blog, but you did have a strange influence over a situation. I won't go into details, just yet....I'll just watch some more, for a while. See, I study behaviour too...not an expert...just liiiike it.

And yes...we are Animal...but so totally fucked up with conscience.
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Oh, Saffer I know. I just wanted to give Prowler an opportunity to correct. I've met many MANY highly educated imbeciles out there. It's part of my day to day job to reign them in and keep them on task. I've also known people that have had thier IQ clocked at greater than 140 that have problematic people skills.

Prowler, you have a master's degree in psychology, correct? Good. Self diagnose then deliver the prognosis on this blog. Then you will be on topic. Otherwise others will surely volunteer this for you.

Everyone else seemed to get the point on the blog.
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So when does someone who isn't even able to use spell check and speak in grammatical sentences good genetic material? It's the modern age there is no use for Prowler's type. People who spread their seed and disappear are weak low lives. They are not even really men . A man is someone who can take responsibility for their actions.

Hardtopickname it was on topic. He just showed you his flaws. He's a complete and total moron who believes he's an intellectual. Wow you know about Freud. Bravo. Who the hell doesn't. You also completely misunderstood his theory. ID relates to dark impulses hidden in your subconscious mind. It has nothing to do with wanting to find an alpha male or Neanderthal. Honestly if you were going to try the argument psychology isn't the way. You should try a biological argument.

He seriously described himself as stupid as well as admitted he has a small brain. In addition to his not being able to wear a suit and use a mobile phone (I bet all the button pushing is too much for his simple mind. Monkey doesn't know how to use a phone.) he probably works some dead end job. It takes brains to work in a job where you would be required to wear a suit. You may even have to use a phone.
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Way off topic, Prowler..

Also, I suspect that Ravenmad has a bit more self respect than that.
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Way off topic, Prowler..
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Prowler90 write:

yadda yadda




*damn near spits his coffee all over his monitor*

I'm sorry to derail here, but that had to be the biggest heap of self inflating bullshit I've seen in months.

But it did make me giggle, thank you.

The only truth I found in that was "My brain is slow and primitive".

Boy, you're about as bright as a bag of hammers.

Sorry again .. do continue.
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Oh, I'm sorry!
Joeboob's changed his name back to
Prowler90!
I think it's a comfort thing as Joeboob
might be misinterpreted as an anagram
of boobjob! YAY FOR HIM!!!!!!!!!!