I use to self harm until I met a man who introduced me to BDSM and I find it is so mcuh more healthier, as well as helping me to be more confident sexually I also found outside of the bedroom my confidence was growing. And with some of it, it shows how much you trust that other person. Also the pain only makes you appreciate the pleasure more, just like so many other things in life. So I am all for it.
I love bdsm! I'm new to the lifestyle of ..I've recently stepped out of the closet about it. Actually, Im in training to bee a dominatrix. There is just something about a blind folded naked woman/man on the floor being whipped and teased without end that gets me going ..it makes me all fuzzy inside :3
i love the bdsm i like pain i've been doing it for a while now its great fun. I am a sub but i do like to fight back a bit thats more of a thrill for me. Theres nothing wrong with it at long as long as its done in a safe place.
I have been playing around the BDSM scene here in my city off and on over the years, and I find that past relationships that were open to this were far more exciting than not. But I agree, one must take things slowly and enjoy the partner...its not about abuse. Pain that is explored sensually is such a beautiful thing.
And speaking of that..I'm looking for a sub/switch...heh heh...
The buzz word (statement) in the BDSM world..is Safe/Sane & Concensual. That is a MUST...in order to really enjoy it.
I think its perfectly healthy in this day in age to explore other factions of the human mind. Being someone with a bit of a tarnished background as for as dating goes (aren't we all), I find it is also a good source of therapy in certain situations as well.
um.. i like a little of both.. for ex, i like when my hands are held( sometimes cuffed) above/near my head... and i've only had painful sex once... i liked it but its only like a once and a while thing...
I like pain, if you know how to do it the two can be blended exquisitely for an amazing experience, but it's all about trust first and foremost. :D I think it's the kind of sexual encounter that should only be done when two people know each other very well and both trust the other. The one in charge has to trust that the one he's in charge of will tell when the limit is reached, and the one that's subbing has to trust that the one in charge will listen and bring no permanent harm.
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